february is for lovers and ex-lovers
So I’m single. Six months so and I finally almost have told my co-workers. But in February I made a postcard about it. The drawing above is my original ink drawing of my portrait photo for an imaginary analog dating site. Since I drew it I have become marginally more comfortable trying out internet dating, though I am pretty happy living a single life full of friends. And I finally feel like I can give a little energy back. I am working on a zine about dating bur for now here is a list of things you can watch that maybe will bring you a little comfort. they are pretty white -hetero-centric. (I did watch the L word for 2 days while sick and though I appreciate its place in television history, I think I watched too much all at once)
break up movies
how to get over a break up—this netflix original based in Peru ( the original title translates “my life after you”) is great for its scenes of indulgence but what I really love is that there is not a happy ending with a new partner. that was the last thing I wanted to see for awhile.
that said, I like to watch love, actually at least once every holiday season. it is over the top. the story line about the sexy american girls is dumb. but if you are feeling a little stuffed up, it will make you feel things, and yes you will cry alone in the light of the christmas tree with the cat on your lap and who cares. plus emma thompson confronting her maybe cheating husband alan rickman, is pretty great.
lovesick—another international netflix show, this one based in glasgow. four friends retrace their relationships, near marriages, one night stands and finally addressing what they might really fear most. I appreciate the variety of relationships—limited to a hetero spectrum—but with the variety of break ups, there is probably something you can relate to.
inside out—this pixar movie about feelings is a good reminder that 1) all feelings have merit and 2)broccoli on pizza is gross.
the marvelous mrs. maisel—an amazon show about finding independence in the 1950’s—her routines are smart and funny and though the whole show comes from a place of privilege, it is worth watching.
the bisexual—hulu’s original show about a woman ending a 10 year relationship because she realizes she is bisexual does a lot to address the layers of confusion and nuance in her identity. I’ve talked a lot about this with other queer friends who date across the gender spectrum, about feeling invisible to the straight and gay world, about feeling the need to prove your identity, to not want to take up too much space but also to be seen. plus saskia chana is hilarious.
ok that’s all I have for now!
